{"id":3325,"date":"2016-09-05T13:32:56","date_gmt":"2016-09-05T10:32:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.okanbal.com\/?p=3325"},"modified":"2016-09-05T13:32:56","modified_gmt":"2016-09-05T10:32:56","slug":"cocuk-egitiminde-yanlis-yaklasimlardan-kurtulun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ogrencikocuokanbal.com.tr\/blog\/3325\/cocuk-egitiminde-yanlis-yaklasimlardan-kurtulun\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuk e\u011fitiminde yanl\u0131\u015f yakla\u015f\u0131mlardan kurtulun"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bir \u00e7ok ebeveyn g\u00fcn boyu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla ileti\u015fimlerinde \u00e7e\u015fitli y\u00f6ntemler uygularlar. Problemlerin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcne hizmet etmeyen bu yakla\u015f\u0131mlar genellikle ebeveyn ile \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda s\u00fcrt\u00fc\u015fmelere neden olur. S\u00fcrekli uygulanan bu y\u00f6ntemlerin alternatifi olan pozitif yakla\u015f\u0131m metodlar\u0131n\u0131 bilmeyen anne babalar k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fc i\u00e7ine girerler. S\u0131k tekrar edilen yanl\u0131\u015f yakla\u015f\u0131m metodlar\u0131 \u015funlard\u0131r :<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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1. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn isteklerini yapmak ve s\u0131n\u0131r koymamak
\n<\/strong>Bir \u00e7ok anne babay\u0131 b\u00f6yle yanl\u0131\u015f bir tutuma iten sebep \u201cBen \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 \u00e7ektim, evlatlar\u0131m \u00e7ekmesin ..\u201c d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesidir. B\u00f6yle yapmakla \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n doyuma ula\u015f\u0131p, mutlu olacaklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrler. Fakat maksatlar\u0131n\u0131n tam tersiyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131rlar. Zamanla, her iste\u011fini kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n, \u015f\u0131mar\u0131k, sorumsuz, s\u00f6z dinlemeyen, sayg\u0131s\u0131z bir birey olduklar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. \u201cHer iste\u011fini de yerine getirdik, neden b\u00f6yle oldu?\u201d diye dert yanarlar. \u00c7ocuklar bir istekte bulundu\u011fu zaman , ebeveyn bunun istek mi ihtiya\u00e7 m\u0131 oldu\u011funa karar vermelidirler. ihtiya\u00e7 ise yerine getirmelidir. Zaruri ihtiya\u00e7lar d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki isteklerini ancak hak etti\u011finde vermelidir. B\u00f6ylelikle \u00e7ocuk baz\u0131 isteklerine kavu\u015fmas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ve sabretmesi gerekti\u011fini \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olacakt\u0131r. Yani kavu\u015ftu\u011fu \u015feyin k\u0131ymetini bilecektir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun zaruri ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 almamak ne kadar yanl\u0131\u015f ise; her iste\u011fini yerine getirmek de o kadar yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

2. Tutars\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6stermek
\n<\/strong>Bir \u00e7ok evde annenin \u201cyapma\u201d dedi\u011fi bir davran\u0131\u015fa baba \u201c\u00e7ocu\u011fu rahat b\u0131rak\u201d diyerek arka \u00e7\u0131kar. Ya da anne baban\u0131n hassas oldu\u011fu bir mevzuda dede \u2013 nine: \u201cTorunumu rahat b\u0131rak\u0131n , istedi\u011fini yaps\u0131n\u201d der. B\u00f6yle ailelerde \u00e7ocuklar neyin do\u011fru neyin yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu asla \u00f6\u011frenemez.<\/p>\n

3. Ba\u011f\u0131rmak ve emir vermek
\n<\/strong>Bir\u00e7ok ebeveynin sabr\u0131n\u0131n t\u00fckenmesi sonucu kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f bir y\u00f6ntemdir \u201cSana s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum! Derhal bisikletini koy ve yukar\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131k\u201d, \u201cTelevizyonu hemen kapat\u0131yorsun, yeter art\u0131k \u201c gibi.<\/p>\n

4. Ba\u015fka arkada\u015flar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslamak
\n<\/strong>\u201cSen neden hep b\u00f6yle vurdumduymazs\u0131n! Neden karde\u015fin gibi sorumlulu\u011funu bilen, sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan de\u011filsin \u201c, \u201c Sen hi\u00e7, Hasan\u2019 \u0131n annesini \u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rd\u00fcn m\u00fc ? \u201c.<\/p>\n

5. Bo\u015f tehditlerde bulunmak
\n<\/strong>\u201c\u00c7abuk onu bana ver! .. yoksa d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131kamazs\u0131n.\u201c, \u201cOyun bitti , hemen yukar\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorsun .. yoksa bir daha soka\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kamazs\u0131n \u201c gibi tehditleri s\u0131ralay\u0131p uygulamyorsak \u00e7ocuk bu tehditleri anlams\u0131z bulurlar.<\/p>\n

6. Yalvarmak
\n<\/strong>\u201c L\u00fctfen \u015fu kavgay\u0131 kesin.. Ba\u015f\u0131m a\u011fr\u0131yor.. beni \u00fczmek ho\u015funuza m\u0131 gidiyor.. n\u2019olur yapmay\u0131n art\u0131k ! \u201c bunun yerine kesin, tutarl\u0131 ve net bir \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f yap\u0131p kavgay\u0131 sonland\u0131rmak gerekirdi.<\/p>\n

7. R\u00fc\u015fvet teklif etmek
\n<\/strong>\u201c Oyuncaklar\u0131n\u0131 toplarsan sana \u00e7ikolata veririm \u201c ya da \u201c \u00d6devini bitirisen bir saat \u00e7izgi film izleyebilirsin \u201d gibi yakla\u015f\u0131mlar k\u0131sa s\u00fcre de sonu\u00e7 ald\u0131rabilir. Fakat \u00e7ocu\u011fun do\u011fru davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmesine katk\u0131da bulunmaz. Yani r\u00fc\u015fvet verilemedi\u011finde \u00e7ocuk do\u011fru davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 yapmaz hale gelir. \u00d6d\u00fcl olarak k\u0131sa vadede kullan\u0131lsa da uzun vadede tercih edilmemelidir.<\/p>\n

8. Tekrarlamak
\n<\/strong>G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta bir \u00e7ok anne \u00e7ocu\u011funa \u201c Ay\u015fe , dersin ba\u015f\u0131na oturma zaman\u0131 gelmedi mi ? .. Hadi l\u00fctfen, dersin ba\u015f\u0131na.. \u201c gibi ifadeleri s\u00fcrekli tekrarlar dururlar . Bu tekrarlamalar \u00e7ocukta s\u00fcreklilik arzetti\u011fi i\u00e7in anlam\u0131n\u0131 yitirir.<\/p>\n

Anne babalar isteklerini, l\u00e2f\u0131 d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcp dola\u015ft\u0131rmadan, tekrarlamadan, yalvarmadan, ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rmadan, yak\u0131nmadan, tehdit etmeden, ceza vermeden, k\u0131sacas\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ya\u015famadan anlatmak zorundad\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\nUzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman
\nE\u011fitim ve \u00d6\u011frenci Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131<\/p>\n

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Profesyonel E\u011fitim ve \u00d6\u011frenci Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 Deste\u011fi Almak \u0130\u00e7in Randevu Al\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n

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